Happy birthday to the best dad I know,
A father I love and respect,
A dad who fulfills all his duties
To teach, to guide, to protect.
If everyone had such a father,
A really good dad like mine,
The world would be so much better,
It would look like God’s own design.
It's been 14 years since I have never seen you,
Every time I see my children,
I always wonder what you would think about them
I know deep in my heart, you are proud of them
It's been 14 years since you died
I always cherish you as the best dad ever
The one that I always fond of
The one that I always so proud of
Dad, I put your pictures next to my bedside
Just to remind me how much I love you
So your grandchildren will remember your handsome face
And they know they have great grandpa like you
I love you, Dad
Innalillahi wa innailaihi raaji'uun...
My father passed away today...2 August 2008...
I received the news at 4am (GMT) from my mom and my sister. And I got an sms too from one of his aides that simply said, "Telah berpulang ke Rahmatullah, Dr. Muhammad Imaduddin Abdulrahim (Bang Imad)..." - then everything seemed to be a blur...my initial reaction was to figure out whether to go home or not. After careful consideration and discussions with my family, it was decided that I shouldn't rush home as I would not make it in time. The flight from the UK to Indonesia would be too long arriving too late and it would mean delaying my dad's funeral. I was told that I should pray for him from afar and that would be all right.
I was told that he passed away in peace...I thank Allah for that.
I'm just sad that I never got to say good bye properly, and to tell him that I love him.
But deep inside I know that he knew...
I pray to Allah that he died knowing that no matter what...I love him.
We may not have spoken much in the past couple of years, but I never stopped hoping that he will see the person that I have become and be proud.
In the past 24 hours there has been an outpour of condolences, kind words from people who saw him as a mentor, a teacher, a fighter...and to me he is all of that...
I share the experience of many who see him as a mentor and a teacher...but there is one thing that I know him as, that only my sisters and I can stake claim to...as Daddy.
And no one can take that away from us...He will forever be...Daddy.
The side of him that not many people saw...the daddy that loved ice cream and chocolates, the daddy that would indulge us with books every chance he got, the daddy that always smelled wonderful in the morning just before he went to work, the daddy that loved classical music, the daddy who couldn't figure out how to work the video timer, the daddy who got very upset when I had to get glasses at the age of 10 because I read too much, the daddy who could be won over simply by a hug and a kiss on the cheek...and so much more...THAT's the Daddy that I know...and that no one else will ever know.
I will always cherish all the wonderful memories that I have with him, that only my family know...no one else...and no one can take that away from me...
I want to keep it that way...I want to remember only the good memories...the wonderful things he taught me, the inspiration he has been to me for me to become the person I am today. The wonderful ways I witnessed him touching other people's lives with his teachings. The pride that I have in him, and the love that only a daughter can have for her father. I will forever be proud to be his daughter...and carry his name with pride.
Everyday I pray for him...and I will continue to pray for him as long as I live...
I love you, Daddy...
Like you used to always say...I will always be your little girl...
Good bye, Daddy...may Allah bless you to be by His side...
Muhammad Imaduddin Abdulrahim Wafat TEMPO Interaktif, Jakarta:Sesepuh Departemen Teknik Elektro Institut Teknologi Bandung, Muhammad Imaduddin Abdurrahim, meninggal dunia di kediamannya Jalan Bulak Raya Nomor 33, Klender, Jakarta Timur. Sabtu (2/8) pukul 09.00 WIB. |
There are many memories: visual, aural, tactile, emotional, smell, taste. If you are blessed with a photographic memory, then you have the ease of literally “reading” your lines out of your brain. This is because you are able to “see” the words on the page from within your own mind.
But the average person cannot do this. So the memory that will become the most functional is the “tactile” or “muscular” memory. The following information will be geared towards harnessing the hidden power of your muscular memory towards your goal of memorizing lines. As a piano teacher for more than 32 years, I’ve witnessed the miracle of the muscular memory at the piano with myself and with thousands of pianists. The truths that I’ve observed at the piano are immediately applicable to the goal of memorizing speeches, memorizing lines, memorizing plays. This also will work for memorizing formulas and various expressions while studying for a test in school.
Once you “know” the perfunctory technique of saying your lines, you can then easily add expression. The problem that most people have is that they are focusing so much on the blocking, stage direction, vocal inflections and expression that the lines themselves disappear from their mind and they become very embarrassed. This does not mean that you are not smart or that you are losing your mind. This just means that you are normal! Your brain can only do one thing at a time. If you are focused on one thing, then the other thing is compromised. Yet, if the words can be delegated to the autonomic nervous system, to the point where you don’t have to think about it, then you can focus on other things like feeling and expression and the words will no longer disappear. This is because the conscious mind can only think of one thing at a time. If you want to do two things at a time, then at least one of those two things must be automated. This information will help you so that the lines that you need to memorize will become automated.
Create Logical Divisions of Text.
Sometimes, the way the words lay out on the page are based on their poetic presentation rather than their spoken logic. Mark the page or literally re-type so that you can see things in a logical way:
We will use an example excerpted from Shakespeare’s Hamlet.
Original Excerpt:
To be, or not to be--that is the question:
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer
The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune
Or to take arms against a sea of troubles
And by opposing end them. To die, to sleep--
No more--and by a sleep to say we end
The heartache, and the thousand natural shocks
That flesh is heir to. 'Tis a consummation
Devoutly to be wished. To die, to sleep--
To sleep--perchance to dream: ay, there's the rub,
For in that sleep of death what dreams may come
When we have shuffled off this mortal coil,
Must give us pause. There's the respect
That makes calamity of so long life.
Reorganized text:
To be, or not to be--that is the question:
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune Or to take arms against a sea of troubles And by opposing end them.
To die, to sleep-- No more--and by a sleep to say we end The heartache, and the thousand natural shocks That flesh is heir to.
'Tis a consummation Devoutly to be wished.
To die, to sleep-- To sleep--perchance to dream: ay, there's the rub, For in that sleep of death what dreams may come When we have shuffled off this mortal coil, ust give us pause.
There's the respect That makes calamity of so long life.
Repeat Small Sections Without Feeling, With Overlaps to Next Section.
The reason for this is to develop the muscular memory, separate from the emotional memory. You may have to repeat the same line between 20-200 times before it feels automatic. Do it without expression. Make sure you overlap what you say with the next word or two of the next line. This way, you are automating your preparedness, so it will happen instinctively, without effort.
To be, or not to be--that is the question:
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune Or to take arms against a sea of troubles And by opposing end them.
The lines to repeat are indicated in bold text. The last few words you say in one repetition cycle become the first few words of the next repetition cycle. This means that there is a very literal overlap of words, to create the flow.
If you are doing a speech or a monologue, the process is very clear cut. If you are doing a play, where other people’s lines are interspersed with yours, then you have a choice to practice the overlap from or to their lines, or to strictly do it with your lines only. There is no exact rule about this and you have to experiment to see what works for you. If you are waiting for someone’s cue and you haven’t memorized what that is, then you will have problems, so it may be worthwhile to grab the tail end of their lines and PRECEDE your repetitions of your lines by including their lines with your lines. Say their lines very soft, so there is a dynamic difference. This way, you will muscularly memorize your lines, but be aware of their lines and how they set your lines up.
Create a Mental Index.
When you think of just the first word or two of each of your line, this is your index. If you practice saying just these index words (in addition to running the full lines) then you will be cementing in an overview of WHAT LINE COMES NEXT!
To be, or not to be--that is the question:
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune Or to take arms against a sea of troubles And by opposing end them.
To die, to sleep-- No more--and by a sleep to say we end The heartache, and the thousand natural shocks That flesh is heir to.
'Tis a consummation Devoutly to be wished.
To die, to sleep-- To sleep--perchance to dream: ay, there's the rub, For in that sleep of death what dreams may come When we have shuffled off this mortal coil, ust give us pause.
There's the respect That makes calamity of so long life.
Literally say the first few words of each line, in sequence, as if it was its own line! It would sound like this:
To be, or not to be… Whether 'tis nobler… To die, to sleep…'Tis a consummation… There's the respect…
Sometimes, you remember the lines fine, but you just forget which one comes next. The mental indexing will help you see the context and feel secure.
Record Yourself and Play Back.
Use a cassette recorder or a micro cassette recorder or a digital dictation device to record yourself saying the thing you want to memorize. Then play this back to yourself over and over in the background, while you are doing other things. This will create a complement to the other techniques listed above and will help add a subliminal or intuitive awareness.
We celebrated my birthday a week after, because my birthday was on Saturday, the memorial day weekend. We had a trip to Upper Michigan and had my own 12 am birthday celebration on my real birthday... then we celebrated it again, the week after at home with all my beloved friends and their families.
I just realized, when I blew the candle, I didn't make a wish at all, I guess I have it all and I couldn't think of anything this year. Pretty blessed with my life right now. Thank you, God.
